Whoosh Part 2

When we let go into the "whoosh" of what's really happening we step aside, surrender our personal control needs, the whole delusion that is ego, for what is actually happening. It's pleasant to be with what's real instead of what's fake.

The good news is: what's fake can't actually hurt us. So my sister in law is a sweet well meaning individual and can never be annoying, my teenaged daughter's attitude is nothing but her excellent expression of who she is, my husband's affinity for sports is a joy because he is the love of my life, everyone around me is exactly as they should be, perfect for who they are.

And when I hook into the perfection that is already there, when I let myself flow with the whoosh of that I can become attuned to what's real and "heal" what was never broken in the first place.

If I were to break the whoosh into steps I'd say the first one is to realize the tightening in myself. The tightening is false, but I can find signs of it in my own body nonetheless: my shoulders might tense, my neck lock up, my jaw might become immobile. For lots of people they feel pain in their lower back.

The next step is to identify the source of the tightening. It's always fear based and usually it stems from a fear of abandonment.

Finally, when I realize that abandonment is impossible, by definition, by the fact that I am alive, I can pause and go for the subtle shift in perception that leads me to the whoosh. It's important to breathe at this point because breathing is the evidence of the truth of what's happening, the truth of life.

When we get a clear hit of that truth we can drop our desire to control based on our erroneous perception that there isn't enough life to go around, that love is somehow limited. It's impossible to override the Reality of what is actually happening.

By allowing ourselves to be part of it - the all of it - what's really there instead of the fear - we become the vibe for what the truth - the ecumenical nature of that reality - and in the end being that reality, being honest about it, and articulating exactly what it is as it is, is our job.

Today, I remember to "whoosh."